I can't believe I am coming to the age where the majority of my friends are either getting married, having babies, or getting divorced. We are all still in our mid-20s, yet probably 75% of my friends fit into one of those categories.
Having babies and/or getting married young seems to be especially disproportionaate in Louisiana. I was baffled when on the first day at a new job; I am asked if/how many kids I have. Apparently, it is quite an accomplishment to be under the age of 25 with no kids and no husband or ex-husband.
I am currently most amused by the amount of 20 year olds that are getting married and having kids. In my opinion, if you aren't old enough to buy alcohol, you aren't old enough to have kids OR be married. Additionally, I have four friends currently going through divorces (these friends are all in their mid-twenties.) Reason for divorce? "I got married too young."
I know this is not true for everyone - some couples get married young and will be happily married for the rest of their lives. However, this is a very small percentage, in my opinion. Dusty and I have been together for a little over three years; and I know people who are now married and have kids who didn't even know each other when Dusty and I first started dating. This is almost mind boggling for me. Sometimes it even makes me wonder if Dusty and I just don't "love each other enough." 10 seconds later, I remember that it is possible to love someone so much that you want to be smart with your future. When DT and I finally do get married, I'll be able to have a nice ring, we will be able to have nice things, a nice house, and a stable life. All with very minimal debt compared to other young married couples. What's the rush? Get settled. Get a career. Save some money. Know what you want out of life before you start creating another one, or starting one with someone.
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amen, sista!! i totally and 100% agree with this post. kyle and i have been together for 6 years and we are JUST NOW starting to talk about marriage, because we are JUST NOW ready. i don't care what other people think, i wanted to make sure, i wanted to make a name for myself and i wanted to venture out into the unknown "real world" and make my OWN money!
I can't believe you know people going through a divorce in their mid 20s. I haven't had anybody close to me go through a divorce yet, but I'm sure it's coming soon. I'm still falling over about marriage alone. I haven't even begun to wrap my head around children!
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