Engagement?
I have two friends who have recently been asked to wear a ring on their left ring finger for the rest of their lives. One of them has been dating the guy for a month, the other has been dating her (now) fiance for a little over 2 months. Is this weird to anyone else?
I've been in a relationship for over 3 years, and we've co-habitated for 2 of those years. I'm not engaged. Now, I'm not saying that everyone should be together for as long as Dusty and I have before getting engaged....but, at least give it 10 months-1 year.
I know that it works for some people...one of my best friends from back home was engaged after only one month and has been happily married now for 7 years and has three beautiful children. But I think that she is a rare exception.
I know that its a different culture here in the South, and 85% of the women here are looking for the perfect (loaded) man to support them so that they can get married and have babies and be the trophy wives who drive around town in their huge SUV's, chatting on their cell phones, wearing huge sunglasses, flaunting their ridiculous rings, and complaining of their "busy" lives (its true, I've been congratulated several times for having nabbed an engineer). Ugh.
Maybe I'm just cynical because I know so many people who are going through divorces or having marriage problems.
Oh well, at least when I get engaged, I know that people won't have serious doubts about my sanity and/or motives.
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There must be something in the air because within the last week, I've gotten news of two guy friends who have proposed to their girlfriends. One of which I went on a date with probably about 9 months ago. You do the math. The other couple? Maybe four months. You don't really know somebody in that short of time. Believe me. Read some of my earliest blogs and you'll see what I mean.
dusty is an engineer? so is kyle. i get congratulated all the time, which i think is weird. do they not think i'm intelligent enough to land an engineer or do they just think i'm going to be loaded? either way, they are wrong. :)
we've had A LOT of friends get married in the past year and a half or so and some of them have hardly been dating a year. not nearly as bad as those two, but damn, seriously? how can you even know at that point in your life?
kyle and i will have been dating 7 years in novemeber. his older brother (who's 31) was married in may 2006, divorced in december 2007, started dating a new girl in april, moved in with her in may and is getting married in june.
yikes!
So let me get this straight - the south is Leawood, KS? I thought that's what they all strived for around here - big SUVs, bigger rings and even bigger bank accounts.
Sam and I will have been together for almost 3 years we get married and will have been living in sin for almost 2. I think that it's nuts to get engaged after less than a year - I just don't understand how you can really know another person well enough after a few months to know if they're your soulmate or not. I'll second Lara's comment by saying that I got word a little while ago that a guy I dated right before I met Sam was married less than 6 months after we stopped seeing each other and I found out this weekend that a friend popped the question to a girl after 3 or 4 months. Crazy...but maybe that's just me.
@Lara - Glad to see that I'm not the only one with seemingly retarded friends. And I agree - it takes a long while to really get to know someone. I saw your earlier posts....good thing you got out of that mess.
@Catie- Yeah, Dusty is a mechanical engineer. I always think it is funny that people think that engineers wives are loaded...don't they know that engineers are also stingy? :)
@Kate - You should see the motivation that women here have to get married! I am pretty sure that's the only reason they go to college - so that they can meet someone who is going to "make it."
I also think its ridiculous to get engaged after less than a year - I'm glad I am not the only cynical one on this! Everyone around here seems to act like it is completely normal.
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